In the past year, my son's coach has:
• "Friended" his players (high school kids) on his facebook and posted pictures of himself drunk.
• He and the assistants chew tobacco in front of the boys.
• He told the boys it was team bonding to chew tobacco during their spring break trip.
• While on the spring break trip, he invited the High School girls (the managers and their friends) to meet them at a bar, they did, then he got into a bar fight "protecting" them. He went back to the boys rooms drunk - to brag about his adventure.
• The seniors quit the team during playoffs - as punishment, he had the boys run the jersey number of one the boys that quit - to teach the boys that didn't quit a lesson. Turns out the boy who quit was a 2 sport athlete and had advanced to a state track meet.
• Asked the African American players if they had aids - jokingly.
• Invites the boys to hangout with him.
• Sent disparaging emails about players to the entire team.

There are other incidents, but these are the ones that stick out. Most people would not believe that this is true. The fact is, I couldn't make it up. Am I being naive- Do other coaches do this? Please give me your feedback. There is a problem with reporting him. Turns out that his biggest supporter is the booster club president - who donated a large sum of money to the program.

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There is a problem with reporting him. Turns out that his biggest supporter is the booster club president - who donated a large sum of money to the program.

Assuming this is all true I will ask the following question Is this a high school team?

booster club president a friend donates a lot of money always a good reason to have a booster club

Yes - high school team.

The booster club president donated the money - he is the coaches' biggest supporter.

to tell you the truth I find this hard to believe. Must be a joke!!!!!

I wish it were. Do other coaches do any of this? I know some get in trouble for emailing, but what about the facebook? and chewing tobacco?

If all that is true, it is terrible. I would go beyond the booster club to the school's AD and principle. This guy should not be around HS kids. Something much worse is bound to happen, like he and the kids getting arrested for underage drinking and contributing to the delinquincy of minors. Maybe didn't happen yet, but will if this type of thing continues. I would definetely make someone in the school administration aware.

hitenrun

Not defending the coach and his behavior but how do you get these "facts"----where you there to witness them?

TR - yes some... the facebook pics - he friended my son on facebook and I saw his drunk pictures, the chewing tobacco... I and most of the parents have witnessed them dipping, obviously the emails since they were sent to all of us. I know for a fact that he has invited my son to hang out with him. My son will not give me all the scoop, because he wants to be loyal to his coach, but he has told me of some of the other incidents. With that said, I have no first hand knowledge of the spring trip incident, but I know that the coaches requested a night out and went.

The thing is, the boys like this coach. He's like the cool coach. As a parent, do you look the other way?

Why hasn't a parent passed on the Facebook links to the school? I can't imagine a coach could ask a black kid why he doesn't have AIDS without the kid telling his parents and the parents bring it to the attention of the school.

Can you pass on a facebook link? I thought you had to be a friend of the person in order to see their page. I can only see the pictures if my son leaves his facebook open. I cannot go on without a password.

And the African American boys that were asked that (I did not hear it personally), were the 3 seniors who quit, so they're done with it. Coincidentally, our African American Coach mysteriously took a leave of absence at the same time, never to be seen again. Without a peep to the boys as where he went.

I think the AD is aware of some of the incidents - some parents have spoken up. But to my knowledge he is still the coach.

So do I report him or look the other way?

IMO, Chewing tobacco is the least of my concerns in this list.

This is not a booster club issue. It is a principal, ad, and school board issue. the guy would be gone from any school I have ever had contact with.
and to answer your question; NO, not many other hs coaches do this.

Sounds like an immature kid who can't/ won't grow up.
Is he in his twenties?

Cball - yes 26 or 27. I am going up against a mighty force with the Booster Club Pres. He is well connected.

Report it. As a parent your priorities are to the safety and well being of your child. Baseball should be a far secondary concern in this situation.

Print the pictures and give them to the principal or AD. Forward them any inappropriate emails. And by all means get your child's passwords for the websites they visit.

You say you know your son has not told you some stuff out of loyalty to his coach - his loyalty is to you first and foremost.
If I knew my son was hiding something that could potentially harm him you better believe that I would do everything in my power to find out what that was and ensure he was not put in that situation again.

Sounds a little fishy to me - but if it were me I would ask my son to tell me everything that has happened, collect all the evidence, tell my son he could not play for this coach and take everything to the school/authorities.

Your making my head spin, if true ....in my neck of the woods this coach would quietly disappear. Then there is the nice way .... Report the coach, the booster and anyone who condones these actions. All you need is a couple of parents and a strong local politician. And please get your son away from a bad situation.

Are you saying you are sneaking or trying to sneak into your sons Facebook page(s)to spy on him---now that is scary on your part--invading your sons privacy like that!!!

Hope your son does not find out !!!!


I also agree with Ozone regarding our neck of the woods

Another item-- I follow and communicate with my players, past and present, on Facebook---they react to a Facebook message quicker than an email---it can be a great tool---also they may get a note from me if I see them post something inappropriate and out of line

Dear hitenrun

I know what coach you are talking about and I would like to say shut up. These are ridiculous allegations that you are making and you need to get a life. the coaches of this team do more for us (yes i am a player) than anyone has ever done in our lives. I look up to every one of them. The fact that they make themselves available to us at any time (or as you said, inviting the boys to hang out with them) is special. not many coaches do that.

Feel free to grow a pair and stop posting behind a false name.

Thanks for your time

TR - My son left his facebook page open on the family computer. And furthermore, I think as a parent there is nothing wrong with knowing who your kids are talking with online. Apparently there are no pedophiles in Connecticut... or creepy Coaches posting drunk photos of themselves for all to see and asking your underage daughter to bars. Lucky you!