My fifteen year old daughter wants to get her belly button pierced. I said that it was fine. I then asked where she would live. She says that I am mean and don't understand. I asked her to give me a good reason for allowing her to do it. She gave me a doozy. Because its cool.
Would you guys let your daughter do it? How do you handle 15 year old girls?
"I love the HSBBW"
Posts: 5101 | Location: South Florida | Registered: December 26, 2002
I'd love to help you, but I only have a son. Fortunately, prior to his turning 21, piercing or tattooing body parts never became an issue! I wish you luck!
Is this heaven?...
Posts: 2177 | Location: Western PA | Registered: January 01, 2003
Big, fortunaetly,my 14 yr.old daughter is "somewhat" of a tomboy,so she has never really been "into" all the"girlie stuff", (Boys,Makeup,BOYS!) However,she has asked to have her bellybutton pierced...Why?...Because it's Cool!! I told her sure...we would go together and I would get mine done also...Funny,she hasn't mentioned it again...And I was really looking forward to"bonding"with her!!Just ride it out Big,and I think this to shall PROBABLY(hopefully)pass. Good Luck you mean'ol Dad!!
Cindy
Posts: 240 | Location: Quinlan,Tx | Registered: December 30, 2002
quote:However,she has asked to have her bellybutton pierced...Why?...Because it's Cool!! I told her sure...we would go together and I would get mine done also...Funny,she hasn't mentioned it again..
A great parenting tool that I have successfully used many times.................
But, BH, ain't your bellybutton already pierced?
I thought I saw that in a picture (please, please don't repost that picture) and then, I got to wondering what piece of farm equipment would do that.
Posts: 3105 | Location: Texas | Registered: December 27, 2002
My daughter is 16 and has been after us CONSTANTLY since she was 13 to get her belly button pierced. Both my husband and myself were adamently opposed to it.....so I thought! In February my daughter qualified for YMCA Swimming Nationals in Fort Lauderdale and my husband accompanied her on the trip. Lo and behold I get this phone call at about 9:00 one evening from my husband asking me "Do you mind if she gets her belly button pierced?" You could have wiped me off the floor. He was calling from a tattoo parlor (I'm sure they are all nice and clean in Fort Lauderdale during spring break! ). Well, I figured she was 16 years old and this wasn't the hill I was going to die on.....I'm sure there will be be bigger and more important battles to fight in the next few years. Plus.....it has turned out to be a GREAT weapon in holding over her head when she says "You are the meanest parents, you never let me do ANYTHING!". Still not very happy about it....but I did notice that it was removed from her belly button about two weeks ago and hasn't reappeared! Just because we relented doesn't mean that this is what you should do.....just one perspective for what it is worth!
Posts: 2634 | Location: Pennsylvania | Registered: December 30, 2002
Being the mother of 2 girls ..20 months apart...and one who literally knows how to push my buttons(belly included) they can wear you down real fast...my come back was that until they were 18 and living in my home they had to abide by my decisions...I pointed out all the side effects of such a choice..infetions etc BUT when she turned 18 she did not have her belly button pierced she chose the tongue which literally grossed me out ...it did not last long and I do believe it was to be a source of shock to me ...God knew what he was doing when I had my son as I could not deal with 1 more daughter....BTW she is now 25 and does not give me the grief she had in the past so there is a light at the end of the tunnel...I have on more than one occassion said I would have preferred 10 boys over the girls...the gray hair I have was given by them but I love them all the same...God Bless my Mom 4 girls in 5 years... don't know how she survived
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Posts: 772 | Location: Dedham, MA | Registered: December 30, 2002
Don't have daughters but when my youngest son asked me at 13 if he could get his ear pierced I at first said no then realized that first he asked me instead of getting someone to do it and secondly, if this is the worst thing he asks me permission to do I was getting off lightly.. I think the earring lasted about 4 months, haven't seen it or the desire since (its been 4 years).
I say go for it, then remind your daughter its winter, what does she plan to wear to show off this lovely piece of jewelry. Tell her your not saying no but to come back to you in the summer when its more clothing appropriate (bathing suits, shorts, etc.) Hopefully by then the desire is gone and there will be a new phase or at least by then she will be 17 and a little bit older to make the decision.
Most of teh HS girls around here who have done it have let it close up after a few months when the novelty wore off.
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"JustMom"
Posts: 1631 | Location: Virginia | Registered: December 26, 2002
I like Duke's Mom's answer as well. It worked for me when our son said he wanted a tatoo ... I told him I would go with him and have a penguin tatooed on my right cheek ... just above the wasteband, if you know what I mean ... while he was having his tatoo done.
He is now 21 and can do as he pleases, but the threat of a very chubby penquin showing up at one of his baseball games as I leaned over to pick up my scorebook ... well, that seems to have done the trick for a while.
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * C'mon guys ... let me out !!! I just wanna see a game !!! H-mom * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * We learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp; some are dull; some are pretty; some have weird names; all are different colors. And they all have to learn to live in the same box.
Posts: 3937 | Location: Somewhere out there beneath the pale moonlight ... | Registered: January 02, 2003
Well,,,, I actually know a 45 year old very normal-looking, usually nice, somewhat conservative, baseball-loving Mom who got her belly button pierced about a year ago. She went with her daughter to get it done while visiting her at college. Her husband thought she was nuts, but it is a reminder to this woman that while she may be hitting middle age with grown up kids, she's still young at heart. It also reminds her that she had better get to the gym and do her situps. Would she recommend it for your daughter, BitHit? Probably yes, although not if it means that her stomach will be exposed at every possible opportunity (which seems to be a trend here in NorCal) She would want your daughter to know that it hurt more than expected and took longer to heal than she had been led to believe. (P.S. Even though she is quite grown up, this Mom has not told HER parents about it ) I agree w/CatchMom - in my opinion it is far better than tongue or eyebrow piercings(my personal gross-out). If you'd like to ask this person anything else about it, please let me know and I will ask her...
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Posts: 1121 | Location: Northern California | Registered: August 26, 2003
I would presume that this "45 year old very normal-looking, usually nice, somewhat conservative, baseball-loving Mom" has enough class to wear a diamond stud in that belly button opening, right?
Quick question ... will the weather in So Cal in Dec be warm enough for that diamond stud to be exposed?
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * C'mon guys ... let me out !!! I just wanna see a game !!! H-mom * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * We learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp; some are dull; some are pretty; some have weird names; all are different colors. And they all have to learn to live in the same box.
Posts: 3937 | Location: Somewhere out there beneath the pale moonlight ... | Registered: January 02, 2003
The Winter thing won't work. I live in Coral Springs Florida. I tried to find a good picture of piercings on the google image search and found things not believed that were pierced. I am in shock. So I am going to tell her that if she goes then i am getting mine pierced also and am dressing in a speedo.
"I love the HSBBW"
Posts: 5101 | Location: South Florida | Registered: December 26, 2002
My 15 year old twin daughters both whom waterski ask to get theirs done this fall like their teammates. I said fine as long as I could go and get it done also. Being the father, I thought this would be a great deterent. The response that they noticed I have become a little vertically challenged in the mid-section and may draw some attention to the area stopped me in my tracks. I'm sure they'll look great.
Posts: 3860 | Location: Madison Wi | Registered: January 06, 2003
Gee Big....we see now where you get your name! Thanks for not showing us anything pierced!
_______________________ "People ask me what I do in winter when there's no baseball. I'll tell you what I do. I stare out the window and wait for spring." Rogers Hornsby, Hall of Famer
H-Mom, I think your response was extremely funny! But for some reason, I don't think it would be that bad!! Would love to see it even.
I think whether they are girls or boys, you just have to pick your battles. And only remember that when they are asking permission to do something, we can only imagine what they DON'T ask us permission for!!
Posts: 165 | Location: Southern California | Registered: April 26, 2003
As an inside informant to you guys concerning HS life, I'd urge her not to do it...
About 10 friends of mine have it, and I swear it's as if they only got the darn thing so they'd have something else to complain when they exhausted all other options.
I of course give them something else to complain about when I tell them to kindly "shut it"...I don't want to hear about their petty problems. I have more important things to worry about (mainly getting rid of the headache that comes along with having girls as close friends)
Besides, it's not "cool" anymore. No guy likes giving a girl a hug, only to have her wince when her ring/stud accidently gets caught on his shirt. Happens more times than you think.
---------------- Iron Chef Redneck
Posts: 367 | Location: Atlanta | Registered: December 27, 2002
JK
). Well, I figured she was 16 years old and this wasn't the hill I was going to die on.....I'm sure there will be be bigger and more important battles to fight in the next few years. Plus.....it has turned out to be a GREAT weapon in holding over her head when she says "You are the meanest parents, you never let me do ANYTHING!". Still not very happy about it....but I did notice that it was removed from her belly button about two weeks ago and hasn't reappeared! Just because we relented doesn't mean that this is what you should do.....just one perspective for what it is worth!
they can wear you down real fast...my come back was that until they were 18 and living in my home they had to abide by my decisions...I pointed out all the side effects of such a choice..infetions etc BUT when she turned 18 she did not have her belly button pierced she chose the tongue which literally grossed me out 
...it did not last long and I do believe it was to be a source of shock to me 
but I love them all the same...God Bless my Mom 4 girls in 5 years... 
) I agree w/CatchMom - in my opinion it is far better than tongue or eyebrow piercings(my personal gross-out). If you'd like to ask this person anything else about it, please let me know and I will ask her... 
