I just love the fact that you came to the Ladies' Lounge for advice on boys and girls ... do you think if there were a Gentlemen's Lounge, you would go to your peers for advice?
All kidding aside ... our son, who was also a great student, was a bit of a late bloomer as well ... altho he had discovered girls and all their fine attributes earlier, he didn't date till he was a soph in high school. And altho this may scare you off, the little gal he started dating as a high school soph is still around 5 years later, and will probably become his fiance at the end of this coming June.
We did face some challenges, when the interest seemed to be all pervasive. But he has always had a dream, and fortunately, for him, she has always shared his dream for him. It makes a world of difference if the love interests are also sports enthusiasts.
Anyway, just keep your ears at attention and keep your eyes open. I am sure you have a son with a good head on his shoulders, and if he has a dream for college and/or baseball, he will more than likely learn to balance his future dreams with his dreamboat.
Keller Dad If girl's have led to your destruction as a boy you should have all the answers! LOL That does in fact make you an expert... Do as I say...not as I do...Ring a bell?
I notice that "girls" seem to be an issue quite often when the boys are not on track...Maybe we can do a quick poll of the Ladie's here with daughters....are the "boys" always the derailing factor????
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Posts: 2525 | Location: Northeast | Registered: December 31, 2002
my son had his first (gosh he'd kill me if he knew I was commenting on it) - possibly first "real" girlfriend that it appeared his heart was actually involved in the process this past summer...at 17.
So after much debate we allowed her to attend with us an out of town game and BK was pitching...we feared the distraction...we feared his focus was going to be, well you know somewhere else...
However it worked out fine...he threw nine innings...right at 120 pitches...was going strong...coach was watching the pitch count...we WON....tied from the 3rd - 9th...till we went ahead by one...in the 9th.
His girlfriend said, "So, do I get to come again..?"
Next time she went he had a chance to bat...(he didn't do that much...not his expertise) and he got up to bat...and hit a home run out of UTA's park...such fun.
So...girls aren't all bad. But fortunately they broke up...freed up his time...which was great!
Posts: 1742 | Location: New Boston, Texas | Registered: December 27, 2002
I have two boys, 15 and 17, and have more questions than answers about the girl situation. However, I would like to hear your story behind the quote: "But, girls worry me. They led to my destruction as a teenager...... "
C'mon, tell us more and we'll learn from that!
Posts: 3617 | Location: Minnesota | Registered: January 04, 2003
This is my first time in the ladies lounge and i find a topic I have had alot of experience with. Lucky me. As a Mom of 2 teenage sons, I believe I can contribute to this conversation. My oldest son, a high school senior and early D-1 signee, has had the same girl-friend since his freshmen year. From the very beginning I make it very clear to both of them that school came first , always! She has turned out to be very supportive of him. She has travelled with us alot and seems to have a possitive affect on him. She is an outstanding student and has really kept him on track with his grades. I do wonder how things will work out between them when he leaves in Aug., She is a year behind him in school. I believe if you lay out the rules to everyone from the start it will be fine.
Posts: 175 | Location: Amelia, Louisiana, United States | Registered: December 31, 2003
Welcome to the hsbbweb!! We are glad you found us and look forward to your contributions to the different forums...this one happens to be the very best of them all IMHO!!
This discussion hits close to home for me as well...my freshman son at OU has a girlfriend who is a junior in high school and they've been dating for almost 3 years...he has never gone steady with any girl for even close to that long..I wondered how things would work out when he went to college this year but they are still going strong so maybe she is a keeper, I guess only time will tell....he talks to her very often on his cellphone but knows that he dare not run over his minutes so that hasn't been a problem so far and he made a 3.5 his first semester so his grades haven't suffered from the long distance relationship so far at least...he is getting in gear for his first collegiate season and we are all very excited..fortunately, we will get to see all of the weekend home games and some of the away games as well. While I would prefer not to have a girlfriend in his picture right now, I guess we just have to trust in our sons' decisions and hope they keep everything in perspective. Please let us know more about your son such as what college he signed with...he might be a future opponent of some of our sons, you never know!
Ann
Posts: 764 | Location: Palestine, Texas USA | Registered: December 27, 2002
Ann, Thank you so much for the welcome. My son has signed with UL lafayette. We are very pleased, it is only about an hour and 15 minutes from where we live. Hopefully we will be able to see him play alot. It is hard because I have a younger son who will be playing also. I'm really looking forward to my son's last high school season. He had a great jr. season. He is a left-handed pitcher. I saw his name listed on the forum for signees, I was surprised to see it , i didn't know it was there.
Posts: 175 | Location: Amelia, Louisiana, United States | Registered: December 31, 2003
Girls are no longer a problem, WOMEN are a problem...grown *** women in their late 20s and early 30s with jobs and cars and houses...I can't talk about it anymore I am getting a migrane!!!!! I am just waitng for one these chicks to step thru my front door...so I can snatch her bald
baseballdownsouth, If you have a private topic or PM, you need to click on the tab that says "my space" and then "private topic". These topics are between you and one other person. They are private (somewhat). You can check with hsbbweb on the confidentiality of these threads. I would think that hsbbweb and maybe some other "moderators" can all view, edit them, so they are like all email, "not completely confidential". Hope this helps!
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Posts: 804 | Location: Vicksburg, MS | Registered: December 05, 2003
I've always thought that the HSBBW had the answers to all things baseball.
If you guys can help us figure out teenage boy/girl relationship stuff, then I'll need to reconsider expanding my evaluation and place the HSBBW on an even higher plane...
Even though we have 3 boys, I have no advice except to say, hang in there -- in 15 years it will all be better (at least we hope).
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Posts: 152 | Location: Southern California | Registered: January 04, 2003
Ladies - I am soooo dissappointed - I can't believe this is in the ladies forum and no one has addressed the fact that girls get a bad rap on this.
If a young man CHOOSES to spend more time chasing a pretty face than shagging balls and swinging a bat does that make it her fault? I think not !!
Girls do NOT derail a boys dream, they offer an alternative which he freely chooses, usually with gusto. Will he look back on the choice as a mistake - oh certainly many do - but let's be honest - it was their mistake not her fault.
Young men - girls CAN NOT ruin your baseball dreams. The choice is yours. What they can do - and will - is offer such an interesting alternative many of you will falter and choose them over baseball (at least for awhile) - and live to regret it. But as always the choice is in your own hands.
