As I get my son settled in college, and, that's right men do too, get a little of the empty nest syndrome, I realize there are several parents going through the same thing.
I just wanted to wish the player's much success, the parents patience, and view this as a great opportunity.
Signed, Does it make sense to start a family in your 50's?
Posts: 1169 | Location: Crofton, MD, USA | Registered: December 26, 2002
No! It doesn't make sense!! I am sending my baby off to college this year and I was just remembering back when I sent her off to kindergarten.....My Dr. told me then...that just because I was going to miss her was not a good reason to have another baby.....
_________________________ Nothing is sometimes a good thing to do.... but always a good thing to say.
Posts: 2525 | Location: Northeast | Registered: December 31, 2002
BK'sMom-My son is at a school in Fl, so I thought it would make sense to vacation afterwards. There are times the both of us are alone and just thinking.
The good thing, his room-mates seem to be good kids, parents seem nice and the one thing I know the three have gone through that initial bonding.
In fact they are gone fishing today and my wife and I are wondering what we are going to do....
I keep remembering a poem I read, no I am not going to quote poetry, but the poem talked about yelling to have your kids keep it down, clean their room and even wishing you could get some peace and quiet. Then one day.....anyway I know you get the picture.
For me, I coach baseball and I do use each one of the players to fulfill that father/son thing. I worry when we go back home, my wife may have a tougher time.
Maybe I will buy your hamster!
Best of luck to your son, and especially your family.
Posts: 1169 | Location: Crofton, MD, USA | Registered: December 26, 2002
Al and others...I would like to weigh in here. Having coached 17-18 yr. olds from the time I was 22 until I was 37, I want to let you know that your fears, concerns, and thoughts about your kids going off to college are not abnormal. I've coached kids that would cruise through college based on character, work ethic, and determination. I have others who were given everything from birth, and still didn't appreciate it. I really worried about them going off to college. However, the common denominator for all of these guys was that they were leaving behind parents who still view them as their babies.
I look at my 7 and 3 yr. old kids, and still remember the day they were born. I wish, like many of you, that time could stop, and we could just hold on to them forever.
Having lost my dad last fall, I started reflecting on all the good times we had together. I just want to reassure you that even though you are letting go, they will, in time, come back to you. Only after graduating college and getting a job, did I truly understand the sacrifice and love my parents showed me every day of my life. It was at that point, that my relationship with my parents grew even stronger.
Just wanted to pass this along from my own personal experiences. Even though they may not say it, they still and will always need their parents. Best of luck to you and your kids!
Posts: 746 | Location: Mt. Airy, MD, USA | Registered: December 28, 2003
You know what's funny, we spend all our time telling our kids do this, and do that, watch out for this, and watch out for that all with the intent of becoming independent.
Then when it's time, I guess I truly do not want them to be independent. At the same time I know they need to be...
Guess it's better this way. Don't want to be on the Jerry Springer show, "My son is 35 and living at home!"
Posts: 1169 | Location: Crofton, MD, USA | Registered: December 26, 2002
