It's an interesting question. When my son was a freshman, his coaches were changing various things, and he struggled for awhile. He didn't like most of what they were telling him to do, especially when his results went south.

But I figured this wouldn't be the last time he faced this situation. He's going to work with lots of coaches in the future who tweak this and that about his swing, his throw, his footwork. If I stepped in to intervene in HS, when would he learn to struggle though these things on his own? I'm not going to be there when he's in college.

Did I discuss with him the changes his coaches wanted to make and how he would handle it with them? Sure. But I didn't think I should step between the coach/player relationship and do anything to intervene.

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Originally posted by OLDSLUGGER8:
Wowie...........

To put such a large chunk of a youths life in the hands of a baseball coach in their formative years?

A large chunk of a player's life? We're talking about an extracurricular activity. If it's not working there's travel. If a parent is real hard core, there's moving. I know a family who moved so their son could play for a certain Legion team (over the top if you ask me).

You have to be kidding me !!!!----if a kid is scarred pyche wise because of a baseball coach the boy has deeper problems than you want to admit

Typical of our country today they are young---with this attitude thus they will never know what the heck is out there---AND THEN WHAT !!!!

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Originally posted by TRhit:
You have to be kidding me !!!!----if a kid is scarred pyche wise because of a baseball coach the boy has deeper problems than you want to admit

Typical of our country today they are young---with this attitude thus they will never know what the heck is out there---AND THEN WHAT !!!!

Atypical youth?:

I don't that is a "typical" youth - however they are very brave youth.


I have had two moms(!!) complain to me (why me?) that the coach didn't like their son - that is why he wasn't playing much. They are rising freshman on the summer team and they want the kids to start and play every inning.

I think many of the issues parents are are rooted with the parents themselves. If Jr was the star in Middle School then he should be the star in High School, right? Never mind that the team has kids shaving and driving and 4 years older than Jr! This may not be true in some cases, but a dose of reality and patience is needed in most.

Dad 04

thanks for putting things in perspective. Sometimes we get all bent out of shape about what is said on this site. the reality of the matter is we are talking about a game. We put so much emphasis on who did what, how many games did they win, who won the state championship etc etc. We read the papers about the money the major league players make for hitting catching and throwing a round ball. Just the other day I read where Dr. DeBakey died. I asked who was he?
Dr. Michael E. DeBakey, the medical pioneer who was the driving force in developing the field of cardiac surgery, died Friday. He was 99.
In his highly influential career, DeBakey performed the first coronary artery bypass surgery and the first carotid endarterectomy to prevent strokes. He developed the pump that is the key part of the heart-and-lung machines used on patients during heart surgery, and he developed an artificial heart that keeps patients alive while they wait for their own heart to improve.

I know i did not know who he was. But I kneew how Ruth DiMaggio Mays etc etc and what they did. Perspective

but you know what Will - it is our reality. If son had gifts or talents in other areas, wouldn't we be be just as involved? Of course we would. Our oldest is not interested in baseball at all. He is very successful in his chosen path and we support him. While focusing on our baseball playing kids maybe we should also broaden our horizons? Read history, read good literature, just don't ask me to do math problems aside from Suduko.

It takes all kinds to make up this world. But I'm not going to be less supportive or feel squirmy because my youngest loves to play a game called baseball. So it isn't rocket science or medical science or fighting a war. I'm OK with that and very proud of him. He works hard, stays out of trouble, and has done well for all of his 15 years. He might very well hit a brick wall next year, or the year after - at any point as he continues to play. Then he makes the transition and does something else. That is the perspective for me.

When people laugh as I tell them son wants to play in the MLB it irritates me. Let them dream.

off topic a bit! and I know parents do lose all sense sometimes and blow up over things that aren't important.

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Originally posted by 55mom:
I don't that is a "typical" youth - however they are very brave youth.


I have had two moms(!!) complain to me (why me?) that the coach didn't like their son - that is why he wasn't playing much. They are rising freshman on the summer team and they want the kids to start and play every inning.

I think many of the issues parents are are rooted with the parents themselves. If Jr was the star in Middle School then he should be the star in High School, right? Never mind that the team has kids shaving and driving and 4 years older than Jr! This may not be true in some cases, but a dose of reality and patience is needed in most.

There was heralded player from our local rec league who never played against quality competition. The best players were playing travel. His mother was beside herself he didn't make JV as a freshman. She wasn't any better when he didn't start as a soph on the JV. Guess what mom. The train ride is over. Time for junior to get off.